What doesn’t kill you….

75 thoughts on “What doesn’t kill you….”

  1. Thanks for sharing.

    You’ve spurred the need to share here as well.

    I’m fortunate to have no traumatic event to change my life’s direction, other then knowing it was just time.

    As a native, third generation New Yorker, I moved back home to the city 3 years ago after 25 years in SF and LA in tech and entertainment.

    Traded my Audio S-4 for a subway pass, decided to work only for myself, consult to young entrepreneurs on building communities and marketplaces, and building a project around my passion, artisanal and natural wines.

    Best decision I’ve ever made. Ever day is not easy but it’s my own.

      1. Funny, the city itself becomes a character in your life. Nothing like the streets and the dynamics of this place to keep you inspired. And inspiration knows no age limits.

  2. Thank you for sharing Mr. Malik. It seems I have been in a sprint for 29 years of being in the technology industry. The wisdom in this blog is very meaningful to me.

  3. Om, thanks for sharing such a poignant and vulnerable reflection. It made me think, question and reflect upon my own personal struggles as well. Your comment about being in a “state of existence” is so true – others may laud strength and the ability to survive as brilliance but it really isn’t so heroic as much as being present and acknowledging acceptance. May your coming year continue to be filled with grace.

  4. Great post. I find that the older you get the harder it is to change. I’m glad you were able to take a step back and reevaluate even in such a traditionally 24/7 industry. Sometimes winning is doing less.

  5. Great post. I am glad you have been able to realize your latent desires (I started to call them dreams, but a “dream” is not a true description of something that you really want to do.) At age 50+, I am trying to change my own direction without having a death-defying experience as a catalyst. Isn’t that what true learning is about?

    BTW, I still miss your GigaOM podcasts.

  6. Om, great reminder at this time of year. With all of the Web 2.0, instant gratification-oriented culture, it’s a great reminder to “live in the moment” while it’s there.

    Thanks for the reminder.

  7. I’m glad you’re still here. I recall vividly where and when Paul called to give me the news. I asked Helene immediately for medical input as that was more important than all the rest. Paul and everyone rallied for you. Others did too. All for one reason, we knew you would be worrying about the business. As you friend, you came first. We’re all grateful to your doctors, because a world without you, would never be the same.

  8. One of my favorite quotes that is always relevant by adding 5 years to your current age:

    “Better to be 40 wishing you were 35; than 45 wishing you were 40”.

    Congrats on making the last few years “highlight reel” worthy; and here’s to the next chapter. Live each day and make it count.

  9. I know exactly how that feels… in February of 1992 – leap day – UCSF saved my life too… now I have an additional “birthday” as well – and mine is coming up too. I like to say, when people hear the tale – “It doesn’t change much, but it changes everything…”

  10. Jesus Christ said:
    For what shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Mark 8:36-37 You escaped death this time, but in the end you will not escape death. What will happen to your soul? You might also read Luke 12:16-31

  11. On, Thanks for sharing. Made me stop & think. It was almost 3 years ago when I to had a life changing trip to the er. That made me take stock of how I was living & the changes I’ve undertaken since have been for the better. Glad to hear all is going well with you. Have a safe & happy 2012 & I look forward to mire of your writings.

  12. That’s beautiful a celebration-of-life post, Om. Have wonderful moments all along your life ahead 🙂

    Aside:
    You probably have heard that Christopher Hitchens (editor @ Vanity Fair, The Atlantic and a regular at others) wasn’t so lucky as you and passed away on 15/Dec. Just within a few weeks, both you and Hitchens have quoted the same words of Nietzsche (“Was mich nicht umbringt macht mich stärker”) but in extremely contrasting styles. Here’s his piece on those words of Nietzsche. http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2012/01/hitchens-201201

    His photo in that article is in stark contrast to the one on his ‘contributing editor’ profile: http://www.vanityfair.com/contributors/christopher-hitchens

  13. Go Om. Live rather than evaluate / Have your senses primed to notice life’s joys / Work to change what’s wrong / Accept what you cannot change / such is a life well lived.

  14. Very inspiring words. I opted out of the “regular” jobs with steady income and consequently forfeited a lot of material things. This enabled me to do what was important, which was raise my two sons. As my father was dying from cancer, he had reflected on his life and told me to always remember take care of what is precious to me. I took this to heart – one thing that I was able to give to my boys was my time. I love that you said “Because it places a premium on what you have – time.”

  15. There is a difference between reading your blog/network and all the rest of media tech…here i feel there is something human, in every article, in every opinion, and that’s make the difference.

    Life is so unpredictable that nobody has the ability to know that in deep, but seems that you reached a good point in that, i wish you all the best for your future. Stefano, an italian reader

  16. Lovely lovely post. 🙂

    ‘In the last analysis, it is our conception of death which decides our answers to all the questions that life puts to us. ‘Dag Hammarskjold

  17. Hello, it’s just oriental vision of live. Come in Russia or Ukraine, or further to the the east…we all here are living in the moment and not good in planing, control and reaching our goals… Because our cultures is enjoying process, but not result… so we often do our businesses not very good, but we are not under stresses or depress.. Look for the happy medium(we say – gold medium)…without extremes..
    Happy New Year !
    Ukrainian Girl 🙂

  18. really enjoy reading most of your posts! apart from analyzing in fact/data-focussed manner, you bring in a human psychology angle too many a times which is refreshing… kind of like a thinking mind (that can look at diff. angles and reflect), not just a reporting one!

  19. It’s too bad that it takes such an occurrence to get us to slow down and smell the roses. Most of us are so involved with our jobs that we don’t take the time to enjoy our families.

    About House: He has become more of an ass, and I am not sure if that is supposed to be an affirmation of drug addiction, but he certainly has not improved his interpersonal relationships while off drugs … or IS he?

  20. A professor from the Journalism School once responded to the lament that we don’t have time to design our publications better. “Do less, better,” he said. Sums up one of your thoughts well.

  21. Fantastic article, it is not too often to read something where the author is recounting a personal experience with a message and you don’t feel like there is an ulterior motive or pretension. What you wrote resonates with the ways in which I too wish to improve myself and the way I interact with the world, even without experiencing a near-death moment. So, thank you for sharing this, and it’s great to still have you here

  22. Happy rebirthday. I’m glad that the changes you’re making include ones to maintain good health. I’m a writer, not a techie, but I’m very interested in the ways new technology can help me do my work better. Since I signed up for GigaOm a few months ago, checking out the headlines has become part of my morning routine. Many thanks for helping me stay up to date.

  23. Om:

    Thank you for sharing this lovely piece of wisdom. Sometimes for the hard -charging amongst us, it does take trauma to remind us of what is truly enduring and important. With all the greats in the tech industry who’ve passed on in 2011, I am grateful that there those like you who continue to tell our indystey’s stories.

  24. Nice post, Om. Those are some wonderful changes you made I’d say. Seth Godin also recently wrote about how only worrying about the inputs and not worrying about the output makes sense. Looks like what Krishna said in Gita about “karm kar, fal ki chintaa..” was true after all. 🙂

  25. Thank you for sharing your insights – they are beautiful. 16 years ago, when I gave birth to my youngest child, I had a similar experience, as she was not supposed to live very long, and was supposed to have a horrible quality of life. Through stubborn determination on both of our parts, and learning how to manage all of her health conditions, therapies, surgeries, etc., she is now a vibrant 16 year old junior in high school. She loves every little thing in life – when it rains, she celebrates it. She taught me to value each and every day – just in case.

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